Listen to stories of your ex-girlfriend fucking around with gross and terrible people, stories from your friends who think they are doing you a favor. Go to the gym and make more puddles of sweat. Buy books. Learn about different muscle groups and how they work together. Start eating healthy. Learn about nutrition. Plan out your week of meals. Try to forget her.
After work one night, go up up up all the way to the top floor of the parking garage and walk all the way to the back. Look out at the twinkling lights of the skyscrapers of downtown Los Angeles and think about how every single one of those office lights represents a person. Try to imagine how they feel.
What they’re doing right then; if they miss someone special, if they wonder if someone special misses them. Then realize that most of those lights are probably shining into offices with no one in them except for a custodian or two. Realize you are alone, that you are staring at no one. Turn your collar up against the cold and drive home to a meal of a single chicken breast and steamed vegetables. Go to sleep. Go back to work. Go to the gym. Sweat.
Buy a scale. Pick a goal weight. Imagine the goal weight as a shining beacon on a hill. You are at the bottom, in the dark. Talk to her at work. Notice the awkward way she walks in high heels and her goofy smile when she looks over at you. Feel something clench inside your chest. Think about the gym and what muscle groups you are going to work that night.
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I just wanted you to be thank full to the girl who let you down as she did you a favor. look where you are now! I hope you have made positive changes on your inside Too and that life will now be better then you could ever have believed. You have done a good job for yourself. Congratulations!
S
Must really suck when the source of one’s primary motivation is rejection. It should be self-driven and existential and for reasons connected to health and longevity. No matter how great you look you will always face rejection if you’re not healthy inside–this how-to fails to promote that kind of thinking.
Wrong. It isn’t hatred, it’s pain. Excruciating pain. And anger, self worth questions and a Billion other things that make you second guess Everything about yourself. And though it Starts with pain, what you accomplish for yourself, what you Prove to yourself is confidence. In You. Precisely what you need.
Not a motivation I would Want (or wish on anyone) in order to finally understand who I am and how amazing I and my life are, but a motivation non the less. And it worked. Kudos to him for taking a nightmare he didn’t think he’d make it through and turning it into an accomplishment.
Amen.
You are right. The energy we have inside of us is at rest. Igniting it’s gears and making it move is key to our life.
lyk did if u crii every tym
Like the idea. Hatred makes you work like crazy. This is good advice for those that is going through a break up. Bravo
That is perfect. If you experience going through this crucible, you are unstoppable. It is however difficult to maintain that fire once you reach the peak performance level.
No beer? ha!
Lmao, true story, great read
Why would you shave your chest tho!? Be a man, be a proud man. I hate this trendy Ken doll crap. Just sayin. Thank God for wolverine.
He didn’t shave his chest, just put his chest hair on his head.
Actually, that’s what I did almost 30 years ago when I broke up with my girlfriend–went out and bought a set of weights and a bench, and I’ve been working out ever since! And it wasn’t hatred that motivated me; I just had to do something to fill that gap and to make me feel better about myself. And it worked. 🙂
I love this because it’s your story. Everyone’s story is different. No matter what our motivation is the point is to find it. You found yours in a broken heart. Thanks for sharing!
Totally agree!
Well done and well written. Note: a custodian is a person too.
First of all I’ll start off by saying this, well done brother sometimes we have to use the stones that beat us downand to build a new path.When you feel it start to eat away at your logic and your mind starts going numb the feeling you get when you see her. The world stops when you make eye contact. Her look portrays innocent intentions but you know all too well her thoughts are sinister. The taste of your flesh keeps her alive and fuels her demon to crave your soul. Remember that feeling you had when the lies came out and your dreams turned into cold, dark sleepless nights. Nights that transitioned into hopeless days, lost in a world with out a purpose hungry blind and ravaged to pieces. The wolf that once hunted and merely destroyed you laughs while you waste your minutes living in past tense. Youve ran from truth for months, the person you once were is gone, the only thing left beating in your chest is an empty bag your veins are a desert. The drought that consumed has spit you out. It’s carried on as fast as it came it’s gone and moved onto new waters full of life, like you once were. Stumbling you will gather your senses with no where to go, youll be at the end of a road. Once again you’ll find yourself alone, against the rocks, confused and lost. Brother your not lost you’ve merely found who you are. The strength you carried all along the strength you needed all those nights.. Let it break through the chains that weighed you down, the ones that had you gasping for air. Break them! use them! sow yoursedlf up and lace up your boots. It’s good to bleed for once you were weak and now you are solid. The weakness that was planted, couldn’t outlast the beast. When your one your one, lets be honest not everyone can make it. Some get lost along the way, regardless of how you feel or what someone has done, take action have that determination to not be a quiter. Don’t let someone change you for the worse because that only proves they got the best of you. One day youll see that wolf she won’t be strong as she once was, she’ll be lost and running just like you were at one time. Don’t slay the creature in fact don’t even acknowledge their existence. Stay on your course, focus feel it embrace it, destroy it. An old man once told me that the wise walk alone not because they are forced too, because They chose too. Kick some ass and leave your mark don’t be the mark..
This article started off alright, but then took a really lame turn. Kudos to you for overcoming being such a beta male and getting in shape. Getting in great shape simply because you had your heart broken is something a female would do. Maybe if you weren’t such a feminine candy ass, she would have stayed with you. She has probably banged 20 different dudes since you broke up and could care less about your transformation. Move on, bruh.
It is very saddening that many men like yourself do not understand the purpose of human emotions or the longings of the human ‘heart’. I bet you, Alpha Bro, are truly happy in your blissful state of delirium… Not feeling on the levels of the conscious mind that you a too ‘beta’ and weak and afraid to feel. It takes a selfish fool to make a comment like what you have said here but I simply write this for you not to hurt you but to show you that you are only limiting yourself.
Life is passing you by each day on levels that you are either oblivious to or you choose to not acknowledge and that is the only truly Sad ‘lame’ story that I found here.
Peace,
Mellowtornado
To-Alpha Bro
Umm… It appears as though YOU are the candy ass along with being a knuckle head and conceited jerk. Get off your high horse you AS**OLE! I pity any woman who may be interested in you!!!!
He may be ripped and lean however he is paying the price by losing his hair. (Not chest hair- look at his receding hair line on his head) Some fat is good.
Fat bird? Yeh, thought so.
Awesome read made my day I’ve been there …
Honestly.. Its a motivation for me coz i just got dumped 3 days ago whom i loved like the thing that i cant explain..our 3 yrs relationship was just all shaterd.. My all those future plans, they were dumped in a trash by her n she is enjoying with her new boyfriend.. She got a guy within a day… Thank u man for ur post… I feel stronger. Huge salute to u